Everyday we deal with a number of different people from different walks
of life. However, we tend to turn our attention away when confronted
with a high-intensity negative person. Here is an article to help you
deal with negative people positively. Keep reading.
In everyday life, do you come across people who are fraught with
negativity? Has your friend, who is very dear to you, developed a
negative attitude, and you can't just stand it anymore? Do people around
you see a glass half empty instead of half full? Well... it is not new,
there are a lot of people you might have come across, or will come
across at least once, filled with negativity. Such people can drain our
positive energy and influence our thinking making it negative too,
because no matter what you say or do, they have a way of spinning things
in the negative direction. You cannot really put an end to this, and
turn attention away from this scenario, because you have to deal with
such kind of people on-and-off in your life. Therefore, it is important
you deal with them in a way that you don't get affected by their
negativity. Here are a few tips on how to deal with negative people
positively. Read on...
Tips To Deal With Negative People Positively
Make positive statements
A negative person is going to go on and on about how unfair everything
is... how nothing pleases her/him... and about so many other
complaints... In such cases be an active listener, irrespective of
whether you absorb it or not. They want to be heard, they want to vent
out their grief. Give them a patient ear, ask questions, agree with
whichever points you think are legitimate and lastly, emphasize by
making positive statements. How does it feel when someone tells you to
relax, when you are super annoyed? Good, right? Give them that same
empathetic ear. By helping them to learn to address their emotions, and
find a solution for themselves.
Avoid the negative comments and stay in a positive frame of mind...
While dealing with cynical people, it is likely that you too tend to
shape your perception in that direction. Don't let that happen, be firm
and don't let their thoughts influence yours. Never take such people
personally. Now, I know it may seem difficult, because sometimes even an
abrasive person may have a valid point. But, here the point is to weigh
their comments and decide for yourself, how much importance is to be
given to these comments. You don't need others to tell you what you are
like, however keep an open mind with a willingness to learn.
Broaden your perspective
Sometimes, some people find it comfortable to share their grief with
you, however unfortunately, they may come across as negative people.
Whether the person is really negative or not, ultimately you're the one
who is perceiving the person as negative, make sure you have legitimate
reasons to back your thinking. Broaden your perspective, probably the
negativity is the product of your lens. Therefore, interpret every trait
of theirs in a positive manner, or look for the goodness in him/her
instead of the negativity.
Don't get into an argument with them...
The most important thing you have to learn is not to get into an
argument with a negative person. At such times the negativity in them is
aggravated and there is every possibility it might rub on to you. No
matter how hard you try to direct the discussion in a positive way, a
negative person will have strong view points to back up his stand. Avoid
the arguments as far as possible, or change the subject, whichever is
easy.
Praise them for their positive aspects
This is one thing that is sure to work even if the others don't. Praise
them for their positive aspects. Find the silver lining in the dark
cloud. While they talk to you about all the negative things in the
world, make sure you understand all of it, and yet find a sunny side to
it. This can be more frustrating and annoying for them. However,
remember, this will mark as the first seed of positivity you are sowing
in them.
Actions speak louder than words
Be an enthusiast and focus on your own positive energy. Try to influence
your positivity on him/her. Look at everything positively, find
goodness in all that you see and most importantly help the negative
person to perceive things from your eyes. Let the positivity rub on to
them. Initially it may seem really difficult, yet cultivating this skill
will become your second nature.
Counter react with warmth
I firmly believe in the language of love, and that it can melt a total
cynic. Usually a negative person is depressed, lonely and longing for
attention. You will see a negative person constantly feels he/she is
unloved and as a result craves affection. A hug, peck, or a simple
smile, can break down negativity faster than words. This might also help
them get to the real heart of the problem causing their negativity.
It may seem difficult for you to deal with negative people initially,
however you can make the world a better place to live by working on
yourself. Don't let negativity influence your mind, become self-aware
and protect your positive space, let nobody intrude it.
1. You are not blending well enough: I don’t know how many times I have
to emphasize the need to blend. You have to make sure there are no harsh
lines.
Research has shown that 85 percent of communication is nonverbal, so
choosing what to wear to an interview is clearly an important part of
your overall presentation. It won’t make up for weak answers, but it can
communicate some positive things about your personality and what you
might be like to work with. 
